Today my ex-husband is getting married.
Today is a big day for him, his bride and all our children. Today is a happy day and a day for celebration. He is happy and that makes me happy. That makes our children happy and that makes my current husband happy (I remarried 6 years ago).
It’s a circle, and we are all connected. We are all a family and when a family member is happy we celebrate, and when they are sad we lean in to see how we can help. That’s what family does.
We have worked hard for this relationship and it came with many - I mean OMG MANY - trials and errors, but we stayed focused on what was important and what wasn’t, and that has got us to where we are today.
I share this today to offer hope to divorced homes; to show that life doesn’t have to be yelling...Continue
Gratitude; tis the season for it. Some have it, some want it, others seek it, and some even fake it, but what is it really? I like to believe I have it, but if I’m being truly honest, I have to admit I often fall short and have on occasion even faked it. I believe one of my biggest setbacks to feeling truly grateful a lot of the time is expectations. I had it once said to me that expectations are nothing more than premeditated resentments, and in my experience I am inclined to agree. So often others can’t meet our expectations for many reasons, and when this happens we can feel let down, and if it happens often enough we tend to build up resentments, all based off OUR expectations. To feel truly grateful means to release your ideas for that situation and find joy and contentment in wha...Continue
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Many years ago, I learned that the key to staying somewhat sane was to become a priority in my own life. This, quite simple put, meant making time for me to do the things that refueled my soul. It took some time but I did eventually make peace with the fact that it is NOT selfish to put yourself first; in fact it is necessary if you have any chance of getting through this crazy world in one piece.
I did well at this for some time, but as the years slipped away and we added a new baby, a new business, and a new puppy to the mix, my “alone time” slipped away as well. I did on several occasions try to get back on to routine, however I was too tired and more focused on making sure my family’s cups were all filled, so I didn’t have the energy to worry about my own.
I didn’t real...Continue